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Taming Your Toddler ~
Toddlers are approaching the age
of self discovery. They are learning new things everyday and
sometimes it's not always what you want. Examples: Tantrums
and the word "NO".
Why do they throw tantrums?
Why are they so defiant? Great questions!
On the road to self discovery one
wishes to become more independent, make their own decisions, and learn
what they can do by themselves. There is a way to allow your
toddler to do this without you losing your edge.
First, and most important, listen
to them. What do they want? Acknowledge their wishes.
Make them feel that although it might not be appropriate you understand
their need or want.
Second, offer choices. Be
sure they are choices you will be happy with the out come. Most
children when offered the choice of choosing something else on their own
will do so simply because they know the choice that was made was theirs
and not yours.
If they wish to play with a toy
another child has and snatches it out of their hand, assure them that
they can play with the toy when the other child is through, but that it
is not their turn and then offer them two other choices whether they be
alternate toys or alternate activities.
If it's almost time for a meal and
the child insists upon having a cookie, let them know how much you enjoy
cookies too, but you love them even more after you have eaten your meal.
Have the child choose which cookie they want, put it aside in a special
place and let them know it is waiting for them to eat it, but only after
they have finished their meal.
Feed a cold, but never feed a
tantrum. Always use the first rule of acknowledgement. Let
the child know you understand their want or need and then simply state
to the child that you are walking away right now, but will be happy to
listen to them when the are ready to talk to you. After the child
calms down and realizes that the tantrum is not working, they will
either move on to another activity or talk to you. If they do talk
to you, be sure to reassure them that you understand how they feel and
always offer those choices.
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